In last week's podcast  we explored the scourge of perfectionism in the law. We noted how from very early in our careers, we are often introduced to cultures where perfectionism might be encouraged. What often comes along with that perfectionism is a high level of self-criticism.  Such habits are not conducive to wellbeing or thriving.  

One practice available to us is to exercise self-compassion.  This might seem 'fluffy'.  It is absolutely not.  

Understanding and practicing self-compassion can be transformative, offering a pathway to improved well-being.  

As we explored in this week's podcast, self-compassion is not about lowering standards but fostering resilience and strength.

What is self-compassion? 

Prominent researcher Dr. Kristin Neff defines self-compassion through three vital components: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.

It's about treating ourselves with the same kindness we reserve for friends, recognizing that mistakes are part of the human experience, and being mindful of our emotions without letting them overwhelm us.

Self-compassion is not weakness.  On the contrary, research shows that being kind to ourselves actually enhances motivation, leading to sustained productivity and healthier professional relationships.

Practical Strategies for Lawyers

Implementing self-compassion doesn't have to be difficult.  There are a few REALLY simple things we can do.  

One of our favorites, suggested by Dr. Neff, is the “self-compassion break.” When challenges arise, take a moment to acknowledge your feelings, recognize the shared human experience, and extend kindness to yourself.

The benefit of this approach is that we have an opportunity to notice and reframe our thinking.  We can do this regularly, rather than waiting for a crisis to arrive before we begin to show ourselves such compassion.  

Another option is journalling.  This is similar to the compassion breaks, but writing your thoughts down can allow to think more deeply and engage in greater self-reflective practice.  

Reflect on situations by writing down your feelings and consider how you’d advise a friend in similar circumstances. This is a great one - because often we would never speak to our friends the way we speak to ourselves.  

For further exploration of self-compassion practices, listen to our latest episode of 'The Thriving Lawyer' podcast.